In the previous post, I mentioned that I received two cherished messages from two of my daughters on my birthday. Here is the second one: “So many wonderful things I can say I get from you every day. I love being an extension of you because you are kind, thoughtful, insightful and willing to learn about the things you are guided to.”
This is from my youngest daughter who had some advantages in that she saw me when I had more experience, wisdom and was less afraid to ask for help. She lived with us when there were fewer children under our roof and consequently less stress. And she witnessed me as I was learning who I really am and embodying my purpose in life.
It all sounds very simplistic, but it actually takes an ongoing process of self-reflection and inner work to be able to come to a well-defined sense of yourself. A great place to start is to find your well-defined life purpose.
Do you dislike your chaotic or reactive behaviors and just haven’t been able to change them? That’s a great problem to have because there are therapists who can help you embody the qualities you want in your life and ‘repattern’ what seems like long-standing, fixed behaviors in your life.
Are you living with the “ghosts” of your past? This ghost is the critical voice in your head. It creates beliefs and fears inside you that you despise. It speaks to you often with self-defeating and painful messages. The good news is that there are ways to integrate this voice into your present-day life and use it for th
e betterment of yourself.
Summing it up sounds simple…but simple doesn’t equate to easy. It takes consistent attention and effort. We can only live a life that we also want for our children by consistently taking these steps.
1. Find help to heal your childhood wounds 2. Keep your life purpose in the forefront of your mind and work each day 3. Ask yourself in every situation, what did I learn from this experience? 4. When you recognize the learning, ask yourself, “How will I react or take different actions to shift similar experiences in the future?
You can make “I got it from my Mama” a positive message told you by your children!
