If I had to choose just one thing that almost every client reports, it would be about their racing mind. They have recognized it and recognized how unhelpful it is. Let’s face it, there are so many negative things happening in our world. All we have to do is allow...
Have you ever regretted spending time with your extended family for the holidays? Some people look forward to spending time with their family. Others can predict how the visit will go. They have been down that road! Even for those who want to be with these...
What does it mean to ‘become integrated’? Carl Jung, a Swiss psychiatrist and psychoanalyst, described integration as the process during which both the individual and the collectiveunconscious are integrated into the personality. He saw it as a positive...
Therapists use the word attachment often, especially if they are an ‘attachment focused therapist’. Simply put, attachment is the bond between 2 people. This article is going to speak to the bond between a parent & child. When 2 people are partners, they each come...
This is one question that most new clients ask: “How long will EMDR therapy take? You may be curious about this also, so read on! When they ask this question, first I tell them that it is a process, and that there is not a time limit on healing. Next, I will give you...
and profoundly sweet. (Cheryl Strayed) Take a moment to sit with this: “Mothering is absurdly hard and profoundly sweet”. While paradoxical, these two facts cannot be joined together with ‘but’.Doing that seems to weaken the first idea that mothering is absurdly hard....
Andromeda is a bright, beautiful, healthy, and financially savvy young woman, who had found herself in several failed relationships. She couldn’t understand this pattern and wanted more than anything to change it. The Critical Voice We all have one—critical voice,...
Recently, a former client, Marie, called to thank me for my work with her. She shared that she mentions EMDR to everyone with whom she comes into contact who has also suffered from PTSD, and went on to say that ‘I saved her life’. This momentarily took me aback as I...
Comparison isn’t an emotion, it’s an action–a very pervasive, yet subtle action of thought. Often, when I hear a hint of comparison, I remind my clients (and myself) of Theodore Roosevelt’s quote, “Comparison is the thief of joy”. In Brene Brown’s newest book,...
Avoidance seems like it would be the easy way out—stop your pain this moment! But, we often learn the hard way that it’s never the easy way out. It isn’t an effective or healthy coping mechanism. But avoidance is everywhere! Most often, it results in regret,...
